Hello Scottbrender,
I must say, spoken like a true trainer!!!
Addressing this from a service dept standpoint, its true that a lot of people do tell some old stories, and in some cases this is just a waste of time, however if you fail to look at the past, you are condemned to repeat it. You must examine it carefully before moving forward. If you gave most of the old timers in this business $5 for every occasion that someone came along with a bigger, better, newer way of doing things that very soon flopped, most would have retired to the French Riviera by now.
Yes, I will admit that our industry as a whole, including manufacturers, needs to update our way of thinking in many areas It all begins with a sharing of vision from the top and then training and compensating individuals as they move toward accomplishing the vision/mission. (dont forget to install many short term goals along the way!!)
In your list of problems facing us now, all with the exception of e-commerce have been with us since the doors opened, and will always be there. We are always interested in new ways to approach these age old concerns.
For us, the jury is still out on e-commerce. While taking an active roll we are examining the success and failures of others before diving in headfirst. (we do have an internet sales team)
As for image and community perception, it is quite simply what we live and die by. As for growth, it is idiocy if you do not have a stable base in the other areas mentioned. Growth on a poor foundation is business suicide.
As for all of these ill informed managers telling all these old stories...
They are human, and one thing all humans like to do is tell stories. I'll bet if we were to eavesdrop on you in the bar of a hotel with your coworkers after a training session we would hear stories, albeit future based stories...
Yes a lot of dealers need to drag themselves into the 21st century in many ways. But never underestimate the value of these old story tellers.

gman